I like her, and her too, what do I do now?

08/25/2022 by abc

David is in trouble. Great chemistry has accumulated with Runa. The situation is like, falling in love is just a matter of time. On the other hand, a love affair with classmate Neli has been going on for a long time with David. Now a decision needs to be made. Who will David finally join? He likes both of them. It is almost impossible to decide who is more and who is less. Sometimes there is a feeling of guilt with him. Liking or loving two together can be heartwarming, but what can be done?

The problem with memes is even more confusing. Love was with Alex. Starting from the days of teenage passion. The age of love lasted for eight years. Alex was all over Mary’s being. But the relationship broke down a couple of years ago. Mary broke down. Aron brought her back from the face of that terrible destruction. Now they are committed to each other.

Meanwhile, Alex appeared again. After two years, he realized his mistake. Phone calls, text messages, messengers, WhatsApp—the yearning to return is everywhere. Alex’s standing under her house Mary, under the office for hours embarrasses Mary. At the same time, it stirs up old memories and old loves. She realizes that despite getting into a new relationship, Alex’s existence has remained strong in him. she feels helpless. The thing is, as if Alex wants her, Aron also. What will do Mary?

You can think of the above two events as imaginary. But not at all. Only the names of the spouses have been changed. ok, leave Rohinchandra Burman not forgotten! This was a couple of months ago. This young man from Panchagarh of Bangladesh created a stir across the country by marrying two lovers together, when he recognized his two loves in the state of ‘One likes him, she likes him. But in the difficult reality of society and civilization, such work is not possible. Apart from that, the idea of liking or being loyal to each other in love is also questioned. When it comes to liking two people together, everyone gives admonitions like ‘fix your character first’ or ‘rein in your naughty mind’. But is it a crime? Antics? Signs of characterlessness?

The human mind is a strange thing. Many people live in one person. Likes and dislikes are also strange. “How many people live in your house” is an eternally unsolved question!

But what is the solution to this complexity? American film actor Johnny Depp has given a simple solution to such a dilemma. According to him, if it happens, if both of you like each other, then choose the second person. Because, if you really love the first person, you would not love the second person. But is there a chance to come to such a conclusion? Again and again it is said, more or less, true or false type does not matter, absolutely the same love works for both? However?

What does psychology say in such a confused state of mind? Dr. Mymensingh Medical College and Hospital Psychoanalyst and Psychiatrist. Sajib Abedin said, ‘The ability to love two people together is a quality built-up by born. Apart from that, each person has different characteristics.

A feeling of love or affection can be born for both of them from quality or disposition of liking. The pituitary gland and feel-good hormones are responsible for this.

There is nothing wrong with that. But whenever it comes to relationships or marriage, there are hurdles. In order to avoid complications, society introduces some rules and includes sex in the relationship. But it is important to remember that a relationship is not all about the body.

Being one person in the body and two in the mind, there is no difference as the mind and body are two. If someone says he loves both, the tendency to assume that he is a ‘false’ is also not right. Here, of course, the pride or suffering of the person with you is a different matter. But if someone claims to love two, it is not false and not against nature. But remember, honesty is a big deal in a relationship.

Dr. Sajib said, ‘If you have a crush on more than one person, pay attention to the reality. Compare your partner’s likes and dislikes, social status, growth process, etc. with your own. Keep your partner’s ideals and beliefs in mind. Pay close attention to how closely it matches your ideological position.’

But the feeling may not be suppressed. Therefore, before settling such a complex relationship, it is necessary to have a detailed discussion between the three parties. Maybe someone will stand up on their own. As happened in the case of young Rohinichandra Varman of Panchagarh. After 22 days of marriage, he got separated from his wife. Psychoanalysts advise, therefore, it is better to avoid such incidents. Rather than ending the relationship in bitterness, a decision should be made carefully. Honesty is the greatest tool in such a relationship. Being honest in the ongoing conflict with the mind can win you over.

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